When I Realised I Needed to Report Him

The moment I began to realise that he didn’t really love me was when I left the vicarage with two broken ribs. The breakthrough that I needed to report him came when I heard that he had set up a young church group, and I saw a photo of him with a group of kids, some of whom were the younger sisters of my high school friends.

Reporting him was difficult, as I felt guilty because he had given me opportunities to improve some areas of my life and had supported me in that. I felt alone when the majority of the people at that church stopped talking to me (including the mothers and grandmothers of those young children), wishing that I had just kept silent.

At first this depressed me. But I had another breakthrough in therapy when I understood that the people who had stayed with me were the ones who truly loved me, and whilst it was ok to mourn the loss of the relationships I no longer had, they didn’t truly care for me anyway. It’s better to let those kinds of people go, and enjoy the relationships of the fewer in number but the greater in strength and caringness.

Responding to the Daily Prompt Breakthrough

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6 comments

    1. I also wish that – though I reported mine it was too late for any genetic evidence to exist. After a year if consideration the police ruled there was not enough evidence, now I can only hope that the church tribunal finds him guilty and at the very least defrocks him.

      1. His career should be over. There was no DNA technology when I was molested but there was no actual sex when he misused me. I hope your priest is punished. Religious leaders who sexually or even spiritually abuse their office are dogs of hell.

        BTW, I am having a problem posting my submissions to the daily post even though i posted a hyperlink. Does anyone else have this problem?

  1. I haven’t had that problem before no, try asking in a forum. You could still report him if you wanted to, even if no concrete punishment came from it his face would be in the media and people would be more wary of him.

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